The Nelson Family: I am getting there...

Tuesday, January 18, 2011

I am getting there...

This past weekend I felt defeated. I felt like I was doing everything wrong, and I came home from church mentally tired and frustrated. Serving in leadership positions can be so wearing, and some days I find myself really unsure if I can do it another day. I was not born with a backbone you see, so I find myself letting people walk all over me and it frustrates me that I can't just say what I am thinking! I don't want to be rude about things, but I just want to be honest. (I am going to work on that as well I think this year.)

I was telling my mom about some things, and she gave me some really great advice, "Don't try to fix it all right now; just keep working on things!" Just what I needed to hear. I tend to try to "fix" everything all the time because I don't like to see things broken. It frustrates me. But I know what my mom said is right. I can't fix everything at one time, so I going to try and stop doing so! Easier said than done right? But I will get there.

I am grateful for really awesome and wise mothers aren't you? I hope I can be the kind of mom to my kids as my mom is to me. Then I will know I am doing ok:)

2 comments:

Rachelle said...: you can practice your backbone on me! anywho i hope im helpful!; January 19, 2011 at 2:37 PM
The Chambers said...: Before and I got married and even into our marriage I was just like this. I couldn't say no, I didn't want to be rude, I didn't want to hurt anyone's feelings by speaking up, or telling them what I thought, etc etc. Tra' and his family on the other hand are very good at that. I was scared at first to step up and speak my mind, but I am reaping its benefits. the first time to say no, or what I thought was excruciatingly HARD. It just gets easier each time and now I have gotten really good and discerning what I can handle and can't, and making wiser choices on the spot. Long story short...I know EXACTLY what you are saying. I think we both just have soft hearts and want to make everything perfect and everyone happy. Hang in there sweet thing! :O); January 21, 2011 at 2:35 PM

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Kids do and say the darndest things...

I don't want to forget all the cute things that my children have said or will say, so check back often to see what the Nelson family has to say!

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Kayden: Do I still have my eyeballs or are they still at Grandma and Grandpa's house?

Me: I never knew they were there...

January 8, 2011

I was tired this afternoon, and I needed to nurse Kayden. I felt too tired to go pick up Kayden from where he was, so jokingly I asked Deagan if he would go change Kayden's diaper, nurse him, and then put him down for a nap.

He took it seriously, and said, "I have little boobies mommy! But do I have milk?"

Me: "No you don't have milk. I was just kidding."

Deagan: "But do I have water in my boobies?"

Needless to say, he did not follow through with what I said:)

January 6, 2009

*We went to Olive Garden for dinner tonight, and after the waitress brought us our breadsticks my son yelled after her, "Thank you lady!"

*My oldest loves to bring toys with him to bed. Tonight he had a couple of toy dinosaurs that he got for Christmas. The rule we have of bringing toys in bed is that the toys can't play, they have to sleep too. Tonight, he was having a hard time just letting his toys sleep, so I kept asking him to stop playing with the dinosaurs so he could go to sleep. He was getting really frustrated at me because of this and towards the end he started saying, "I am very mad at you!" It was so hard for me not to laugh at that.

January 4, 2009

He has done this for a while now, but whenever we are in the car he will ask, "Where are we going?" in a annoyed kind of voice. Later on he will ask really sadly, "Where did my house go?"

October 29, 2009

My oldest woke up really early this morning, and was whiny and impossible to please. At this point, I am dreading the day ahead and it is only 7 a.m. My oldest was sitting on his play table coloring and playing with his paint box (that was empty). He dropped the paint box, and began whining for me to pick it up. The conversation went something like this:

D: "Pick it up Mommy!"

Me: "It is right by you, you pick it up."

**Pause from Deagan**

D: "Michelle! Pick it up!"

I couldn't help but smile when he called me Michelle. Maybe this day will be better then I am expecting.

September 6, 2009

I think that wanting your privacy while going potty is a natural instinct that we are all born with and that develops over time. D is beginning to show signs that this privacy is a very important time when going to the bathroom. This afternoon I was making dinner and came in to the living room to check on him. As I walked into the room, he held out his hand and yelled, "No Mom! Go back!" I can always tell when he is done by him allowing me to stay in the same room with him.

August 30, 2009

D wants me to always watch what he is doing regardless of what it is. His new favorite thing to say is, "WATCH MOM!" over and over.

July 11, 2009

I was taking a bath, and locked D in the bathroom with me while I did so so I could keep an eye on him. During this process, D was very interested in his old nursing buddies (if you get my drift) and kept saying "Yummy!" "Yummy?" I asked him. "What did it taste like?" "HOT DOGS!" He replied!

July 8, 2009

D is a big help around the house. He puts things away when I ask him to, sometimes. He helps me fold the laundry, by that I mean he lays in the laundry. He is just a great help. One of his new things is to throw away his diapers after I am done changing him. After a diaper change this afternoon, he proceeded to pick up the diaper and head to the trash. His normal trash that he uses was out of reach, so I told him to go into the bathroom right off of the kitchen and to put the diaper in the trash right next to the toilet. I think all he heard from that was, "Put it in the....toilet." because that is where he put it. Like I said, very helpful! :)